Ultimatum
By Meryem Erkan · Published on
A demand with a threatened consequence that the other person is supposed to avert by changing. "If you don't come with me, it's over."
The difference from a boundary lies in its purpose. A boundary protects you and applies regardless of how the other person reacts. An ultimatum tries to steer the other person's behaviour and loses its effect the moment it is not carried out.
If you like, I will walk with you a little further.
Every Thursday a letter, written for women, with one thought you can try out in everyday life.
If your relationship involves violence, systematic belittling, control or isolation, this is not a question of communication. In Germany, the violence against women helpline is available around the clock, free and anonymously on 116 016. Elsewhere, please contact your local emergency services or a local helpline.