A letter from me, once a week.
For women only. One thought, one sentence for tonight.
For couples who love each other. And still keep ending up in the same argument.
In couples counselling with the Love Reset Method, you learn to talk about anything without it escalating. From home, by video.
Developer of the Love Reset Method. Scientist and former lecturer at the University of Cologne.
Every relationship is different. But I hear these topics again and again. Maybe you will recognise yourselves in one of them.
It starts with something small. Ten minutes later, it is about everything.
Read the article →You want to talk. He goes quiet. And the more you ask, the quieter he gets.
Read the article →You speak the same language and still do not understand each other.
Read the article →Appointments, children, housework. You function. But where did the two of you go?
In-laws, expectations, old loyalties. And you are caught in the middle.
Read the article →Mental load. You carry everyday life in your head and still feel alone with it.
You love your child. And still you argue more than ever.
No more arguing. But no closeness either.
Whatever topic you come with: behind it there is almost always the same thing. You have forgotten how to talk to each other in a way that lets the other person really hear you. That is exactly where the Love Reset Method comes in.
You bring up a difficult topic. And it does not turn into an argument.
He listens without defending himself.
After a conflict, you hold each other instead of staying silent for days.
And you laugh together again. Just like that, on a perfectly ordinary evening.
In my sessions, we practise. You try out together, right there and then, how you can talk differently. That is why most couples notice a difference after the very first session.
“It was so bad that we wanted to file for divorce. Today we are happier than ever before in our ten years of marriage.”
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“We have been married for over 40 years and thought we knew each other inside out. Through the counselling, we got to know each other all over again. Today we feel more connected and more loved than ever before.”
“We had lost each other in everyday life. We functioned, but we hardly ever really talked to each other. Today we understand much better what the other one needs, and we feel like a couple again, not just parents.”
“We argued a lot and were very afraid of passing these patterns on to our child. Because we did not grow up with much love ourselves, we wanted to do it differently. Even before the birth, we worked through our most important issues. Today we feel ready to give our child the home we never had ourselves.”
“Our conversations almost always ended in an argument, or one of us withdrew. Today we understand why that kept happening. Of course we still argue, but we find our way back to each other much faster.”
“Before our child was born, we argued constantly about little things. Through the counselling, we learned to really understand each other. Today we feel much more connected and ready to become parents together.”
“To be honest, I was sceptical at first and did not think anything would really change. But we were finally able to say things that had been standing between us for a long time. Since then, things between us have been calmer and, at the same time, much more loving.”
You choose a time. You both get a link for the video session.
We analyse your situation: What is the problem, what keeps repeating and what goals do you have?
No pressure, no contract. We only continue if it feels right.
Most couples need four sessions. Further sessions are possible at any time.
The first session costs €230.Online by video
Book your first sessionwomen who apply to work with me have been carrying their problem around for years. The longer the same argument goes on, the deeper it sits.
In online couples counselling, you talk to me by video, together from home. The sessions run exactly as they would in a practice. All you need is a laptop and a quiet room.
Not your family, not the neighbours, not your friends. Especially when you would rather not talk about problems, this makes the first step so much easier.
Many men struggle with the idea of going to a practice. A conversation from home feels much less like a big step to them.
No travelling, no babysitter for half a day. The children are asleep, you open the laptop, and off you go.
If he hits you, threatens you, belittles you or controls you, couples counselling is not the right path. Then your safety comes first.
The “Violence against Women” helpline (in Germany) offers free and anonymous help around the clock: 116 016.
Every Thursday a personal letter from me. About life, love and everything that moves us. Straight to your inbox. The letter is written in German.
In the first session, we analyse your current situation: What is the problem, what keeps repeating and what goals do you have? Afterwards, you decide in your own time whether you want to keep working with me.
The first session costs €230. You only book this one session first. We discuss everything else afterwards.
Most couples need four sessions. Many notice after the first one that things are getting easier.
The sessions run in exactly the same way. Many couples even find it easier, because they are in familiar surroundings.
I hear that very often. The Love Reset Method is for couples. If you want to start with yourself first, INNER RESET™ PRIVATE, my 1:1 mentoring for women, is a good way in.
Yes. I know what it is like when the family has a say, when you would rather not talk about problems and when "What will people think?" is always sitting in the room with you. You do not have to explain that to me.
Yes. Everything you tell me stays confidential.
Yes. You can have the sessions in German, Turkish or English, whichever is easier for both of you.