Attachment pattern
By Meryem Erkan · Published on
The basic assumption about what happens when you need someone, shaped by early experiences. Some people assume that someone will come. Others assume that they will be left alone, and some that there will be a fight.
These assumptions carry on into adulthood and meet each other in relationships. Knowing about them is useful for understanding your own behaviour. It is not useful as a label for your partner.
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Every Thursday a letter, written for women, with one thought you can try out in everyday life.
If your relationship involves violence, systematic belittling, control or isolation, this is not a question of communication. In Germany, the violence against women helpline is available around the clock, free and anonymously on 116 016. Elsewhere, please contact your local emergency services or a local helpline.