Behaviour and character
By Meryem Erkan · Published on
A person can change their behaviour if they want to. Not their character. The distinction decides what is worth negotiating in a relationship.
The test question is simple: could he change it if he decided to? Then it is behaviour, and it needs to be talked about. Or is he just like that? Then it is character, and working against it only costs energy.
If you like, I will walk with you a little further.
Every Thursday a letter, written for women, with one thought you can try out in everyday life.
If your relationship involves violence, systematic belittling, control or isolation, this is not a question of communication. In Germany, the violence against women helpline is available around the clock, free and anonymously on 116 016. Elsewhere, please contact your local emergency services or a local helpline.