Boundary
By Meryem Erkan · Published on
A statement about what you will do, not about what the other person has to stop doing. "If you raise your voice, I will leave the room" is a boundary. "You are not allowed to raise your voice" is a demand.
The difference matters because a boundary depends only on you, and therefore holds even when the other person does not go along with it.
If you like, I will walk with you a little further.
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If your relationship involves violence, systematic belittling, control or isolation, this is not a question of communication. In Germany, the violence against women helpline is available around the clock, free and anonymously on 116 016. Elsewhere, please contact your local emergency services or a local helpline.